Abstinence is not an Excuse !!!

Growing up through secondary school, I had known based on my upbringing that it was suggested that I should wait to have sex until marriage. However, it always seemed like a rule that was meant to be broken, as I saw it happening everywhere: in the media, news, and even starting to happen in my school around me. during my form four class our teacher announced that we would be having the visitor who would come to speak on abstinence at our school. As terrible as this sounds, I thought abstinence was just an excuse for people that didn’t have enough “game,” or were not attractive enough to actually have sex. when the speaker finished to speak,he did not fit any of my preconceived stereotypes. He was a relatively young and he is in relationship, he wasn’t awkward but actually was very fun.  He shared his story of abstinence, and about his relationship with his fiance in a way that you don’t usually hear people talk about relationship and marriage: with genuine happiness.  He also talked about real life examples of the pain, emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual, that sex before marriage can bring.  For the first time in my life abstinence seemed not only like the best choice, but an attainable choice.  I realized that he was not against sex, or about ruining the fun of sex, but taught that the best sex, comes within a committed marriage relationship.  From that moment I decided to abstain and now I enjoying the abstenience life!

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THIS IS WHAT WE PLANTED,LET'S HARVEST

Each one of us has affected in one way or other as a result of HIV AIDS, children have lost their parents etc.

Hi,it's my hope you are all aware that every  December 1st  each year is a World Aids Day. Before describing my purpose as per for the heading , just pass thoroughly through these HIV data for Tanzania mainland due December 2016

  

Data	Explanation
5.3%	HIV Prevalence for Tanzania mainland.  Equivalent to 5 people out of every  100
6.2%	Average women with HIV AIDS. Equivalent to 6 women out of every  100 women
3.8%	Average men with HIV AIDS. Equivalent to 4 men out of every 100 men
10.6%	Youths between the age of 15-24 years with HIV AIDS. Equivalent to 11 youths out of every 100 youths of such age.

Remember the above data are obtained from normal voluntary  testing, during preparation for matrimonial sacrament, during blood donation and during pregnancy period as a measure for prevention of HIV mother to child transmission.

You will agree with me that there is a good number of  affected people particularly in rural areas where people have no education on normal health checkup. In such cases majority have myths of thinking my be they have been witched and spend resources to witch doctors and traditional treatments. In other words, the HIV affected population is larger than the statistically documented. 

WHO HAS TO BE BLAMED?

Not me it's you, no it's you, not me.

It's our selves with our government. Surely we voluntarily dig a dip hole and bury the current and coming generation . A large group of influential people in our society entertain the lifestyle of having premarital sex as something normal and necessary to pass through for youths. They are silent to talk on the causes of this rapid spread of HIV AIDS, instead they are busy complaining on the effects and also use a lot of time and resources in and out the country to deal with effects of HIV AIDS.

With my naked eye I once saw a certain organisation going to several academic institutions with entertainment facilities and youths groups. After arriving they conduct dances competitions where the winners are given condom boxes as a gift. Something worst they had a tent nearby where they invite youths (boys to girls) to enter the tent so as to be taught how to use condoms. And a lot of youths with no goals and self determination were going to the tent. Then we are shamelessly amazing why the HIV prevalence data are alarming every day. No need of amazing because we train youths who are sexually active to equip their mind towards thinking about sex only. Also when you visit government and private hospitals, you will meet condom boxes labeled 'take few leave for others' . This show how our minds are rottened and how we invest in promoting sex.

The theory of  what is termed as 'safe sex' through condom use promotion has been used as a trap to capture many youths to enter this life hole, yet they ended having HIV AIDS. Condoms have been put in use in Tanzania for years even before the discovery of first person affected with HIV in Tanzania, yet the number of affected people is going up, yet we don't want to open up our eyes as we continue to invest in non productive project.

No more time for pointing finger to someone. The issue of changing life or certain mentality begins with one people who is you, not someone else.

Through the above statistics, you can see that youths are leading for being highly affected. This is attributed by their behaviors also elder men to have sex with young girls as they use money to capture girls, students in particular.

WHY WOMEN ARE LEADING?

Something sad if not fanny , many of educated people and politicians when explaining this issue on 'why women are leading for being affected with HIV' . I said it's sad and funny because no one who even touched the root causes of the problem, but all relayed  on effects, except religious leaders, at least said the truth.Many of them talked about gender imbalances, some are raped,poverty etc ,which of course contribute but very small percentage.

It is more fanny as no one questioned why in modern songs men dress very smart with good suits but ladies appear half naked with only under wears? No one complained why modern girls do not value their bodies anymore? They just show their body parts on roads rise boys'  sexual emotion and impart bad mentality to children who see them?  Remember children are so observant and learn to faster through observation. You, the so termed 'women rights fighters' why when comes the issue of lady's body value, you all wear tinted glass? You mask your mouth, oh my goodness, let us be serious please.

Here is the truth; the behavior of some ladies to see them as a highly demanded commodities to men, it has attributed  men to have sexual relationships with more than one lady.  Only few girls have relationships with more than one men, but many boys have a group of girls to whom they have pre-marital sex. This is because it's them (not all girls) who voluntarily become agents and recruit men through their wearing styles and failure to say NO  which means 'REAL NO' . In that way it is easy for one HIV positive man to spread virus to many ladies rather than one HIV positive lady to spread virus to many men. 

Personally, I am one of people who do not amaze anymore concerning this issue as ladies themselves entertain the propagation of the problem. But this does not mean men have nothing to do with the situation. The have also to learn and practice the life style of abstaining, saying NO when comes the issue of temptations for pre marital sex, practice self emotional control and allow God to monitor their lives. 

It is true that when a girl practices to say NO from pre-marital sex, no boy can manage to change this, because it will not be just heard pronounced but lived practically.

Ladies, know that you have children on your womb, or you will have them after sometime. Have you ever asked yourself what kind of mother will you be? Your son/daughter expect to be born in safe hand to responsible and respectful mother.

All religions sing the same song of abstinence, no religion that entertain her followers to engage in pre marital sex, let our minds manage and direct the body, guide it to productive issues like economic production and academic matters. IT IS POSSIBLE. FOR ALL BOYS AND GIRLS, IT'S YOUR TASK TO SAY NO FROM SEX AND WAIT FOR RESPONSIBLE MARRIAGE WHERE YOU WILL BE WITH RIGHT PERSON,RIGHT TIME AND LIGHT PLACE. IT BEGINS WITH ME AND YOU, LET US ABSTAIN FROM SEX AS A 100% EFFECTIVE WAY TO FIGHT AGAINST HIV AIDS, POST COITAL DEPRESSION, SCHOOL DROPOUT, FAMILY DISAPPOINTMENT, AND RELATED EFFECTS. IT IS POSSIBLE, START PRACTICING TODAY AND GOD WILL EMPOWER YOU.

Universal Chastity Education is here to help you make new step to your life, make new life circulation, prosper in mental rejuvenation and have heathly lives. Join the team, join the program, learn and teach others.

By Eng Herman Nguki

UCE Volunteer & Morogoro Regional Coordinator

+255 763 639 101/ ngukiherman@ymail.com

Join Universal Chastity Education to spread a lifestyle of abstaining, don't be a slave  anymore. Uncountable youths have been reached and signed chastity cards. You are welcome.

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POTELEA MBALI- MIMI SIO WA KWANZA

Halahala mti na jicho

Potelea mbali, ndio, potelea mbali. Wapi huko? Sijuwi hata mimi.

Naam. habari ya wakati huu ndugu yangu, Siku moja mama mmoja akaniomba niongee na binti yake wa miaka 18 ambaye yuko kidato ch tano kwa maana anaona tabia zake zimeanza kuwa ndivyo sivyo na yeye anajitahidi kuongea naye lakini haoni mabadiliko. Huyooooooooooo hadi nyumbani kwaao. Nikakaa mahali pa utulivu kabisa na kuanza kupiga stori. Nikaanza na utani mwingi na comedy ndani yake huku nikitaka kujua mwanzo wa hizi sarakasi, anapenda nini, hapendi nini n.k.

NILIYOYAPATA

Miaka miwili iliyopita dada yake ambae yupo chuo kikuu alikwa hapa nyumbani na alishakuwa na mahusiano na wanaume wa kuhusiana naye huko chuoni na pia hapa nyumbani. Dada alikuwa anaongea kwenye simu na hawa wanaume kwa nyakati tofauti bila kuwachanganya. Dada alikuwa akimsimulia waziwazi anavyofarijiwa na kupewa anavyohitaji kwa wanaume hawa. Muda mwingi alikuwa akisoma message za watsapp na hizi za kawaida au kuongea na simu, basi alitabasamu na kumpa mshawasha mdogo wake kujua kulikoni, ambapo dada jibu lake lilikuwa 'mdogo wangu kuwa utayakuta, it is more than sweet'. Wakati mwingine alikuwa anamuuliza dada yake 'sasa muda wa kuolewa atafanyeje na haoni kama anamkosea huyo mme atakayekuja kumuoa'. Dada alikuwa akiangua kicheko na kumuambia ataelewa mara muda wa kuonja ukifika,kwa maana wanaume wote wanafanya ngono sana tu, tena wao huwa hawagunduliki hivyo hutumia hiyo nafasi kufanya uchafu  mwingi, hivyo kwa msichana anayejidanganya eti hafanyi ngono kwa kuwa ataolewa na mvulana ambaye hajawahi kufanya ngono anajidanganya, vinginevyo ajiumbie huyo mwanaume mwenyewe ni bora tu afanye, but awe makini sana kusiwe na madhara, kama mimba na ukimwi. Na ikitokea bahati mbaya kapata kati ya hivyo au vyote, POTELEA MBALI KWA MAANA MATATIZO YAPO KWA AJILI YA WATU NA YEYE HATA KUWA MTU WA KWANZA KUYAPATA HAYO, BADO MAISHA YANAENDELEA KWA MAMIA YA WATU AMBAO WALIFURAHIA MAPENZI. Tena kuna watu walijifanya kuwabania wavulana wanaowapenda eti hawataki kufanya mapenzi, lakini mwisho wa siku wakaja kuolewa na mijanadume milevi na mihuni isiyojari na pengine ukaenjoy kwa muda mfupi tu na kufa kwa presha au magonjwa. Bora nini sasa? Ni bora tu kufurahia maisha yamapenzi, na pia akamwambia ukishaanza sio rahisi kuacha. 

Hivyo na yeye mwaka jana wavulana walianza kumtongoza wengi kama nyuki, kwanza aliona ni usumbufu ulioibuka ghafla, na bora amkubali mmoja ili kupunguza usumbufu kwa wengine, ikawa hivyo, akaendelea na kwa kuwa aliambiwa akianza hawezi kuacha, hivyo hata alipoenda rikizo kwa bibi yake akitongozwa alijitahidi angalau kumkubalia mmoja ili mambo yaende, na hadi sasa wanagombana na mama yake kwakuwa anambana sana na kutompa muda wa kuwa huru ili akaonane na mmoja kati ya wapenzi wake. Na naamini kuwa akiacha moyo utaumia sana na pengine mambo mengi hayataenda sawa.

Tuliongea mengi sana, ambayo yalinipa picha kamili ya kilemba cha ukoka alichovalishwa yule binti na dada yake na kujikuta anageuka mtumwa wa ngono na kujidanganya kwa kusema anawapenzi kumbe anawafanya ngono wenzake. Nilimshauri mengi sana na kumuhakikishia kuwa yeye ni binadamu aliyekamili, kuwa na hisia sio dhambi, bali ishara ya ukamilifu, na kamwe sio tiketi ya kufanya ngono, shule na ngono haviendi, sala na ngono haviendi, lazima useme HAPANA yenye kumaanisha hutaki kuwa chombo cha starehe, jiheshimu jisitiri, jitawale, furahia ujana wako kwa kufanya mambo mema.

Ni kweli mtu akifanya ngono hata kuwa mtu wa kwanza, kama kulivyo kufa, mtu akifa sio yeye wa kwanza, swali linakuja Mungu alikuumba ili uje upotee kirahisi hivi jamani? Na wewe msichana aliyekwambia kuwa wavulana wote wanafanya ngono ni nani? hizo takwimu mwenzetu ulizikusanyia wapi? Bila shaka umeanza na wale ambao wamefanya na wewe, au kwakuwa wengi wamekutongoza basi unajua kilakijiji, kila kata, tarafa. wilaya na mkoa  na nchi nzima wanafanya ngono? Unajidanganya. Wenye akili wamejitoa sadaka kuishinda tamaa ili waje kufurahia katika ndoa? Ishu ya nitaolewa na nani, muachie Mungu aliyekuumba ndiyo anajua ubavu wako uliko na  ndiye aliyeutoa, sasa wewe kilanga chako cha kuvania maubavu ya watu, ukija na ule wa kwako utauweka wapi? Au mbavu nyingine unataka kutengeneza mishikaki ule? Muache Mungu afanye yake kwako, usifanye ngono hadi siku ya ndoa, huwezi kuugua huwezi kuwa chizi, bali utakuwa na nafsi ya kutafakari vizuri namna utakavyofurahia tendo la ndoa ndani ya ndoa. 

Ishu ya kutongozwa na wengi pia ni kawaida tu kwa maana kila mtu anavutia, na wakati mwingine watu wanakujaribu tu, na wewe kichwakichwa unaingia kukaa kwa mashabiki wa Yanga wakati umevaa jezi ya Simba, mimi simo yatakayokukuta huko.Wavulana wenyewe wanatongozwa sasa wewe unshangaa nini? KATAA KWA KINYWA CHAKO DADA. Kwa taarifa yako, maisha ya kujitawala bila kufanya ngono ni sala, kwamba unamuomba Mungu akuletee anayejilea kama wewe. Na ukisema huwezi kuacha basi ni shwangwe na vigeregere kwa shetani kwa maana atakuja mfanyangono sugu ili chuma kinoe chuma., Kama huamini endelea, na UTANIKUMBUKA NGUKI MIMI.

Wakati fulani hata wavulana nimekuwa nikiwasikia bila aibu wanasema wasichana wote wanafanya ngono na kwamba kama haufanyi ngono kwa kudai eti utakuja kuoa msichana ambaye hajawahi kufanya ngono basi ni ndoto za mchana. Labda ujiumbie wewe mwenyewe. Mnaumwa nyinyi wenye hayo mawazo, MBONA MNALIPA KISASI KWA MTU MSIYEMJUA? ni dhambi hiyo. Wewe ni nani ambaye umeshajua utaoa mtu wa aina gani? au ndio sala yako? unadhani kwasababu kila msichana unayemtongoza anakubali tena unamkuta wewe sio wa kwanza basi wote ni hivyo? NI MUNGU TU ANAWAEPUSHA WALIO SAFI ILI USIWACHAFUE WAKUTWE SAFI NA WASAFI WENZAO WAFURAHIE NDOA TAKATIFU. Pole unayezidi kujichafua, hata hivyo una nafasi ya kuanza mfumo mpya wa maisha na ndio maana kuna wengine tendo moja la ngono linawapa matatizo yote na pengine kifo, wewe umebaki mzima kwa maana Mungu alijua kua siku utabadilika tu, huenda ikawa ni leo hii.

Subiri muda ufike, mfunge ndoa na kuvishana pete za ndoa ishara ya ulinzi kutoka kwa mwenzi wako ambapo matokeo ya tendo la  ndoa kila mtu atayapokea kwa furaha.

HATA MIMI NINA HISIA KALI

Ikumbukwe kuwa hatuachi ngono kwaajili tu ya mke au mme mtarajiwa, bali ni kwaajili ya afya yako na ustawi wa maisha yako pia mfumo wa kufikili na kutenda kazi za kawaida za kijamii unakuwa na ufanisi mkubwa sana kwa mtu asiyefanya ngono. Hata mimi Nguki usidhani naandika haya labda mwili wangu umelala, ah, weeee, hisia zipo tu tena kali sana kwa maana nipo kamili kijinsia na kila kitu. Je hiyo ni tiketi kwamba nitafute mtu wa kufanyanaye ngono?, hapana. Huwa nafanya nini sasa mwili ukiwaka????? Sikia

• Kwanza nafurahi na kumshukuru Mungu kwa maana ni ishara kuwa nitakuwa mtendaji mzuri wa wizara ya mambo ya ndani from the wedding night.honeymoon etc.
• Ninajiambia kuwa mimi sijaoa bado, na pia kuna mtu anajinyima kwaajili yangu na Mungu kaniandalia.
• Ninajiambia kuwa hisia hizi atakuja mtu sahihi ,tutahudumiana muda wote sahihi na mazingira sahihi.
• Ninajiambia kuwa matokeo ya ngono sasa ni fedheha, aibu,  na kuwahuzunisha wazazi, walezi na jamii kwa ujumla.
• Ninajiambia nataka kuwa baba bora wa familia yangu muda ukifika, ishu ya kwamba mke wangu atakuwaje hayanihusu, Mungu aliyenimba anajua, kazi yangu ni kusali na kufanya uchaguzi sahihi wa kuomba mahusiano,.
• Ninajiambia pia kuendekeza hisia hizi zikiniendesha na kufanya ngono sasa naweza kujikuta  napata magonjwa ya ajabu ajabu na madhara mengine ambayo yanawezaa kuniua, hata kama nitasema potelea mbali mimi sio wa kwanza.
• Kwa kifupi sigombani na mwili wangu kwa maana mimi ndiyo mwenye hatimiliki ya mwili wangu na mtoa maamuzi, hivyo nauambia huna chako kwa sasa, hadi siku ya ndoa.
• Nabaadilisha mazingira niliyokuwepo kwa wakati huo, najiweka busy kusoma vitabu na mambo mengine mengi ya kijamii na kidini hivyo kuhamisha kabisa mawazo, na pengine namuuliza mama kama kuna vitu vya kufuata sokoni ili niende kuvinunua na kubadilisha mazingira..

Tena hata sio lazima yote yafanyike kwa pamoja, mwili unapoa wenyewe nakuhakikishia. Kwa mtu aliyezoea ngono anashangaa kuwa labda nasema nadharia, badilika, vinginevyo unajichimbia shimo la kukufukia mwenyewe na kizazi chako, kwani mdogo wako hasa wa kike akiwa anafanya ngono na limwanaume fulani barabarani huko unachekelea na kumpongeza? na binti yako je? Badilika sasa, kwa wa mfano. Hata wanaokuona wewe ni mhuni wanaweza kuanza kukuheshimu na kukupa nafasi ya kukuamini, na Mungu atawaaminisha kuwa wewe sio yule wa zamani. Anza leo kuamini kuwa wewe ni wa muhimu sana na you will have a wonderful moment with your wife/husband in the marriage. Usiseme Potelea mbali, utapotea wewe mwenyewe na kizazi chako,wala sio mtu mwingine.

NAKUTAKIA TAFAKARI NJEMA. Kama una swali usisite kuniuliza hapo chini, au kama unataka ushauri binafsi, nitafute kwa simu au email, watsaap nipo kwa hiyo number ya voda.

Eng Herman Nguki wa Malekela

0763639101/0679639101

ngukiherman@ymail.com

UCE Tanzania Volunteer.

Itumie UCE Tanzania ikusaidie kufikia malengo yako na familia yako. Fanya maamuzi sahihi

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KUWEKA NA KUTIMIZA MALENGO

Usikubali ngono ikatishe maisha yako. Weka malengo, timiza ndoto zako na UCE

KUWEKA NA KUTIMIZA MALENGO

Utangulizi

Kila mtu duniani hutumia muda mwingi kutafakari kuhusu maisha yake ya sasa na baadaye. Isitoshe kila mtu anatamani kubadili mojawapo ya jambo katika maisha yake. Yawe maisha ya kifamilia, marafiki, uhusiano au kipato. Inawezekana kubadili jambo. Hatua ya kwanza ni kuweka malengo juu ya hilo jambo.

Kuweka malengo ni utaratibu rasmi wa mipango unaozingatia kuchagua, na kupanga hatua kwa hatua katika kufanikisha jambo. Lengo la somo hili ni kutoa elimu juu ya kuweka na kutimiza malengo yako (sehemu ya I) katika maisha kwa ajili ya kuwa na:

• Maisha yenye afya
• Mahusiano yenye afya
• Kazi na wajibu

Faida za kuweka malengo

1. Kufanikiwa zaidi katika maisha
2. Kuboresha mafanikio kiujumla
3. Kuongeza motisha ya kufanikiwa zaidi katika maisha
4. Kuongeza fahari na furaha katika mafanikio yako
5. Kuongeza kujiamini na kukua kwa utu wa mtu
6. Kuondoa mtazamo unaokurudisha nyuma na kukusababishia kukosa furaha
7. Kupungua kwa msongo na hali ya wasiwasi uliopindukia zaidi

Kuweka malengo ni njia iliyowafanikisha wafanyabiashara wengi, wanamichezo (wakimbiaji) na kadhalika. Kuona mafanikio ya malengo yako hukuza kujiamini zaidi na kujenga imani ya uhitaji wa kutimiza malengo ya juu zaidi na magumu.

Kuchagua lengo sahihi la kuanza nalo wakati mwingine ni vigumu. Lengo huanzia na jambo unalotaka kufanikisha na unataka kuyaendeshaje maisha yako. Hili ni la msingi kwani lengo hutoa dira ya muda mrefu, na motisha wa muda mfupi. Humsaidia mtu kutoa kipaombele na ujuzi unaomsaidia kupangilia rasilimali alizonazo. Unaona mbali katika lile lililoonekana awali kuwa jitihada zisizokuwa na maana.

Malengo huwekwa kwa madaraja mbalimbali. Maswali ya kujiuliza ni:

1. Unataka kufanya nini na maisha yako?
2. Unataka kufanikisha nini?

Baada ya kujibu maswali hayo, unayavunja katika makusudio madogo madogo yatakayokusaidia kutimiza malengo ya maisha. Kisha uyafanyie kazi.

UCE team haifungwi na umbali, iwe mlimani, bondeni porini, tutakufikia kukuelimisha. Pichani ni Afisa uhamasishaji wa UCE Mr Mgina akitoa semina kwa wanafunzi wa Wasa Sekondari

Madaraja ya Kuweka Malengo

1. Afya:   Je unataka kuwa na afya ya aina gani kimwili, kiakili, kijamii na kiroho?
2. Mtazamo: Upi mtazamo wako wa kimaisha?
3. Kipaji / karama: Je una kipaji gani?
4. Elimu / Ujuzi: Je ungependa kujiajiri au kuajiriwa?
5. Familia: Je ungependa kuwa mzazi wa aina gani?
6. Fedha: Je ungependa kuwa na kipato cha aina gani? Katika umri gani?
7. Starehe: Ungependa kuyafuraiaje maisha yako?

Kupanga na Kuweka Malengo

Je ni mara ngapi umefanya uamuzi juu ya kisababishi cha jambo na hukuweza kulifuatilia? Isitoshe tatizo la wengi wetu tumekuwa tukiweka malengo yale yale kila siku na kila mwaka ambapo hatukuwai kufanikiwa. Isitoshe kama tumefanikiwa kwa nini kuendeleaza hayohayo tu kila mwaka?

Jifunze kuweka malengo ya miezi sita, mwaka, miaka mitano, au miaka kumi. Malengo yako yawe yenye kuleta mafanikio, unayoyafurahia, yenye kuzingatia tarehe, muda na kiasi / kiwango ili kuweza kupima mafanikio ya malengo yako. Zingatia kutoa kipaombele katika kuchagua lengo la kuanza nalo, yaandike malengo yako, hatua uzipitiazo na yale uyafanyayo katika kutimiza malengo yako. Yaweke malengo yako katika mambo madogo madogo utakayoweza kuyatimiza na kuyamudu. Kumbuka ili uweze ktutimiza malengo yako kuwa na nidhamu ni jambo la msingi.

Unapofanikisha lengo pata muda wa kujipongeza. Kutokana na ulilotimiza panga lengo lingine gumu kidogo ya lile ulilofanikisha. Iwapo kuna funzo ulilojifunza kutokana na lengo ulilofanikisha na unaona umuhimu wa kubadili jambo kwa malengo yajayo fanya hivyo. Kama unahisi kukosa ujuzi katika malengo panga lengo la kutatua hilo mf. Ongeza lengo la kupata ujuzi. Kumbuka malengo ni mtumwa wako na sio bosi wako.

Mratibu Mipango UCE Mr Lema , katika semina Ilula , ukanda wa Mazombe

Mfando wa Jedwali la Kupanga Malengo

Aina / Eneo la Lengo m.f. Afya n.k	Faida za Lengo Husika	Mchakato / Ufunguo	Muda	Rasilimali	Matokeo
Toa maana ya lengo lako, liandike kutokana na mpangilio na kipaombele	Orodhesha faida utakazopata kwa kufanikisha lengo lako, Jambo gani litakufanya uwe mwenye furaha?	Hatua zipi unatakiwa kufuata ili kutimiza lengo lako, Je utaanza na hatua ipi?	Andika muda wa kuanza na utakaohitajika katika kulitimiza lengo lako	Andika mahitaji yanayohitaji-ka katika kulitimiza lengo Je utazipata wapi?	Umefanikisha nini?  Wapi umekwama, na zipi sababu za kufanikiwa au kukwama? Je lengo lako litaleta athari gani katika maisha ya sasa na yajayo?

Kupanga Malengo Kunapofanyika Kimakosa

1. Kupanga malengo ya matokeo pasipo kupangilia utekelezaji wake hatua kwa hatua
2. Kupanga malengo yasiyo na uhalisia kwani hakuna jitihada za kuyatimiza
3. Kupanga malengo yasiyoleta changamoto wala faida inayoonekana
4. Kutokuwa na mpangilio wa lipi lianze na lipi lifuate
5. Kupanga malengo mengi kwa wakati mmoja

Kicheko cha kiwango cha lami kwa mwanafunzi wa Nanenane sekondari Morogoro baada ya kufanya maamuzi ya kusubiri kwa kusaini kadi ya UCE.

Zingatio

1. Tafakari na jenga taswira ya maleongo yako
2. Fikiria yapi yanaweza kukwamisha malengo yako
3. Ainisha na bainisha mambo yatakayokusaidia kutimiza malengo yako
4. Pitia mara kwa mara malengo yako
5. Jiwekee yapi ya kufanya na yasiyo ya kufanya (Do’s and Don’ts)
6. Jifunze kutawala muda wako vizuri (time management) kwa kuoorodhesha yale yanayoiba au kupoteza muda wako
7. Jifunze kutawala msongo katika hatua zote za malengo yako
8. Usiweke malengo madogo kwa kuhofia kushindwa
9. Ni vyema kujua kushindwa kutimiza lengo haijalishi sana iwapo kuna funzo umejifunza katika hilo lengo
10. Kumbuka malengo yako yawe kwa yale unayotaka kufanikisha katika maisha yako kwani mafanikio huja pale unapofanya kwa ajili ya ustawi wako

Wanafunzi wa Mbalali sekondari mkoani Mbeya wakifurahia maamuzi yao ya kusubiri. INAWEZEKANA

Karibu UCE Taanzania ujifunze mengi  juu ya kulinda na kuimarisha afya

Mtayarishaji / Mwezeshaji

Kazi hii imetayarishwa na kufundishwa Mr. Isaac S. Lema Mratibu Mipango UCE Tanzania

Kitaaluma: Mshauri (Professional Counsellor) Shahada ya ushauri toka chuo kikuu cha Tumaini Iringa

Tabibu Msaikolojia (Clinical Psychologist) shahada ya uzamili toka chuo kikuu cha Muhimbili Dar es Salaam;

Mawasiliano: Namba ya Simu: 0713 778808, 0764 345 318 Barua Pepe: lemaisaac@yahoo.com

Posted by Eng Nguki Herman. UCE Morogoo Regional Coordinator.

O763639101/ ngukiherman@ymail.com

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KWANI KUNA TATIZO?

KWANI KUNA TATIZO?

Kama nakusikia vile, karibu bhana tuwe wawili nje huku.

Katika mizunguko yangu ya siku zote, huyooooooo hadi hospitali ya  mkoa wa Njombe maarufu kama Kibena. Wakati nimekaa nje ya hospitali kando ya barabara nikamuona mama mmoja (sio mkubwa sana, ni binti kijana) ambaye alikuwa mjamzito. Alikaa chini kabisa kwenye nyasi huku akiwa mpole na akionekna kutafkari na mwenye mawazo mengi sana. Kiufupi ilionekana kuna kitu kinamuumiza kichwani kwake, au anamaumivu ya mwili, si unajua tena hawa ndugu zetu wakiwa katika hali hiyo complications kibao.

Baada ya muda mfupi watu wakatokea hospitalini kuja upande wa barabarani. Ni kijana mmoja na binti mmoja ambaye alikuwa mjamzito pia. Bila shaka walikuwa mtu na mkewe kwa maana niliona Yule mkaka kamshikia mkoba huyu dada, pia kamshika mkono huku wakiwa wanatazamana usoni kwa bashasha na matabasamu ya kukata na shoka. Kha, nikajua ni mimi tu ndio nilikuwa nawangalia wale watu kama sehemu ya tuition, kumbe hata yule dada aliyekaa kinyonge pale chini alikuwa anawakodolea macho vizuri tu. Muonekano wa wawili hawa ulitoa picha ya moja kwa moja kuwa wanaishi maisha ya furaha na walijipanga vya kutosha, tena hawajutii maamuzi yao na matokeo yake. Yule dada pale chini liendelea kuwaangalia kwa uchungu huku machozi yakimlengalenga (sina hakika kama ni Kiswahili sahihi), aliwangalia hadi walipovuka barabara na kuendelea kuwasindikiza kwa macho hadi walipoingia kwenye gari la kuelekea Njombe mjini. Kisha akajiinamia chini huku ameshika shavu lake.

Mimi kama kijana nilijiuliza maswali mengi mepesimepesi na kujijibu mwenyewe. Kwa mfano huyu mama hapa chini tena akiwa kachafuka na vumbi huenda kaolewa lakini mumewe hajuwi majukumu yake kwa matokeo ya kile ambacho alikifanya yeye mwenyewe. Au yamkini akawa hii mimba kapewa na mtu ambaye hajamuoa bado hivyo mhusika kakataa kushughulikia lolote nakadhalika, au pengine jamii nzima inayomzunguka imemtenga kwa mfumo fulani.

Ndugu zangu mama mjamzito mwenye msongo wa mawazo  sio tu huathiri mfumo wa kawaida wa maisha yake, lakini pia huathiri afya ya mtoto tumboni nap engine kumzaa motto mwenye afya mbovu ya mwili au akili au vyote kwa pamoja. Mvulana ukikurupuka kwa kuendeshwa na hashiki za mwili kasha kumdandia kwa pupa huyo uliyemshawishi kwa pesa zako, unatengeneza bomu ambalo litakulpukia hapahapa duniani au hata ile siku utakaporudi kwa yule aliyekuleta duniani.

Mfano hebu fikiria mama mjamzito ambaye kaolewa na yuko na mumewe nymbani halafu usiku tumbo limuume kidogo, utasikia:

Mama : We baba kijacho, amka bhana mwanao kanipiga teke tumboni hapa, linauma.

Baba   : Oh, pole my love, kwahiyo ngoja nimpigie rafiki yangu aje na tax twende hospitali.

Mama   : Hapana acha tu usiku sahizi, nitajitahidi kuvuilia tutaenda hata asubuhi.

Baba     : Hapana, plz, au tumpigie simu Dakitari aje akucheck hapahapa nyumbani.

Mama   : Mhhh, usiku wote huu, usijisumbue, acha tu mume wangu.

Baba     : Haya mama, basi ngoja tukae wote, silali hadi muanze  kulala wewe na kijacho wangu.

Mama   : Hahaaa, acha bhana, unadhani tumbo lenyewe linauma sana basi, nilitaka tu uamke nikusikie kidogo baba kijacho waangu.

Baba    : Duh, jamani haya mama. Minahamu na huyo kijcho kama nini, sijui katakuwa kajogoo,au ndio mama ndio atajipatia mke mwenza,, teh, heh, (anacheka huku akimbusu tumboni mkewe). Akizaliwa nitamwambia ulimsingizia kuwa kakupiga teke kwa ndani kumbe ulitaka kusikia tu sauti ya baba yake. Haya mama, lala basi nikufunike shuka                            … …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………

Umeona haya majadiliano? YANA AFYA, RAHA nakadharika.

Hebu tuwe wakweli. Dada ambaye kapewa mimba na mtu ambaye hajamuoa bado. Hapo nyumbani wamemdongoa hadi basi, wamemsondea dole hadi basi, (hadi huyo motto anajiuliza kwani huko nje kuna vita?) tumbo likiuma usiku anamuamsha nani? HAKUNA KITU ZAIDI YA KUJIONA MKOSAJI NA KUMCHUKIA MTOTO ANGALI YUKO TUMBONI. Kwa bahati mbaya mtu ambaye hayajamkuta, anaona ni kitu cha kufikirika nay eye hakiwezi kumkuta wakati hataki kubadilika. Huo ni mtazamo wa mtu mjinga. Maana mwerevu hujifunza kupitia matatizo ya watu wengine, lakini mjinga haamini hadi yamkute yeye, ili werevu wajifunzie kwake kama sample space.

Badilika na uchukue hatua leo, kama ulishakosea basi usirudie tena, na kama Mungu amekuepusha hadi sasa, basi usifanye makosa kwenye kufanya maamuzi. Fanya uchaguzi sahihi, funga ndoa halali, furahia wakati wa ujauzito wako/ wa mkeo kwa raha zenu. Inawezekana…

 Kwa kijana ambaye una malengo mwngiiiiii, itumie UCE Tanzania ikusaidie kuweka mikakati thabiti ya maisha yako n kamwe huwezi kujutia. USIFANYA NGONO KABLA NA NJE YA NDOA. TRUE LOVE WAITS………….Tafakari njema

Ukisikia UCE wanaongea na wanafunzi au wtu fulani, fanya hima uwepo ili kujichotea maarifa ya kuishi maisha yenye afya.

Maelfu ya vijana mwameshafikiwa na team ya UCE hata kwako twaweza kufika. Karibu tujifunze pamoja,

Eng Herman Nguki

UCE Tanzania Volunteer

+255 763 639 101/+255 679 639 101 /ngukiherman@ymail.com

Ngukiherman.blogspot.com / ucetanzania.org /uceglobal.org

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UCE Missionaries of Chastity Swarm Across Kilombero,Tanzania 11,105 Commit to Chastity

Last month in Tanzania UCE missionaries of chastity used 4-wheel drive vehicles, motorcycles, and walked on foot as they swarmed across the district of Kilombero reaching 42 schools. By the end of the month, they had held 49 outreaches across 4 districts and helped 11,105 youth commit to chastity. The team members, working on a budget that provides only for chastity commitments cards, transportation, and 2 meals per day, said, “We thank God in Jesus Christ for His guidance of all UCE activities. We are very grateful to the UCE Prayer Warriors who have devoted their time to pray for UCE activities in different countries. We have seen God’s hand continue to lead and protect us in bringing the chastity message to Tanzania. In different places God has called and appointed people to work with UCE. As the Word of God says in Psalms 32:8, “I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shall go. I will guide thee with mine eyes.”

Hilder travels by motorcycle with chastity commitment cards, and a PA system to a remote school

Dr. Centrude gets ready to travel to a school in Kilombero

Mr. Renatus Benges is one of those God has called and appointed, and thus He has blessed UCE. Rentaus has been working with UCE since 2010 as a patron of the Ifakara Girls Secondary School UCE Chastity Club. Since then, he has continued to join the team on outreaches to various regions. As a volunteer, he is very committed to UCE activities despite his very busy schedule. He has been praying for and asking the UCE headquarters to bring the chastity message to Kilombero District for over a year. The team in Tanzania, acknowledging his great work with UCE, chose him to be the UCE coordinator in Ifakara and Kilombero Districts (in the Morogoro region).

Mgina speaks to students at Signal Secondary School

In February of 2016, the UCE team responded to Renaus’ request. After arriving in Kilombero, the team spent time together in prayer, and made other necessary preparations to reach the schools. Kilombero has many schools, some of them are located in remote areas while others are along the main highways. In order to save time and money, the UCE team divided up into smaller teams so that they could reach many schools at once, especially those schools in remote areas. In areas where the infrastructure was poor this proved very helpful. The UCE team used motorcycles to travel to the remote schools, and where there was no road, they travelled on foot.”
There were many success stories from the outreach. Below are several of the highlights.
At the end of the outreach at Kilamsa secondary school, the students were given a chance to share their thoughts. One girl stood up and said, “We are very grateful for this education which you have given us. We have made our commitment to wait and to study hard in order to raise our academic performance. We will live a chaste life from now on. Thank you very much.” The academic master then stood and said, “Certainly, today is a day of blessing in our school because this education is very vital for this generation. I will make sure we have established a UCE Chastity Club as soon as possible.” At Kilamsa of the 220 gathered students 164 made commitments to chastity.

Kilamasa Secondary School

At Nyasaka Secondary School the headmaster shared, “In the last academic year I had to expel two students because of pregnancy. However, there are other students who have engaged in sex but they are using condoms and birth control pills to prevent pregnancy. It is so sad to find very little girls now a days using those pills to prevent pregnancy. Thank you UCE team for coming with this new message of chastity. I believe from now on my students will no longer think about using condoms or pills to prevent pregnancy. The risks of using condom and pills were very well explained. Thank you for teaching them that abstinence is the only right solution for them. I will encourage my students from today to just think about abstinence. For those who signed cards, hold your card in right hand, in front of those who might try to seduce you and convince you to engage in sex before marriage.” 298 of the 400 students made commitments to chastity.
At Kwashungu Secondary School, the headmaster, Mr. Msafiri Chindengwike shared some of the challenges facing his students. He said, “Some girls have engaged in sexual relationships with adults who help them financially. This has led to a serious problems where students fail to concentrate on their studies. The school has tried to take legal action against some adults, but the results were not good, because families of the students negotiate and compromise with them. Last year we had two students who were found to be pregnant.” After delivering the outreach: a message of forgiveness, hope, love, second chances, and God’s plan for our lives regarding our sexuality, chastity, the students asked many questions.
Students were then given a chance to choose chastity, they shouted “we want to abstain in order to achieve our goals!” 353 of the 440 students at the school chose to commit to chastity. The headmaster then wound up the outreach by saying, “I am a teacher by professional but I cannot provide this kind of education as clearly as the UCE team does. So we take this opportunity to welcome you to our school as many times as you can come. We wish you a safe journey.”

Students listen to the chastity message at Kibaoni

At Kibaoni Secondary School the team found that the UCE message had preceded them. One girl had committed to chastity at the UCE Easter conference in Ifunda, Iringa in 2014. She assisted the UCE team by showing all of her peers her chastity commitment and giving a witness to chastity. She said that as a student, “I have chosen abstinence as my way of life.” Her teachers shared that, “she is a very good student with good behavior.” The UCE team congratulated her on being a good role model of chastity. She helped to encourage 298 of her 350 gathered peers to commit to chastity.
Bravo Secondary School is located in a village community. The team used a public address system to share their message, as the outreach progressed many people from the community came to listen to the chastity message with the students. After the outreach, the team gave elders in the community an opportunity to address those gathered. One man said, “I never knew that there is any organization which educates students with good things like this. Most of the NGO’s are insisting students to use condoms and do masturbation as the way of getting relief when their sexual desire is high. But UCE educates students in chastity, truly this message is from heaven. I am grateful to the UCE team. Students remember to follow this message, and you will not perish!” Around 400 people gathered for the outreach and 357 committed to chastity.

Mchombe Secondary School

Bringing a message of hope, forgiveness, second chances, and chastity is the work of UCE! Thousands of lives are changed each month because of the tireless work of chastity teams, the prayers of our prayer warriors, and the financial support of our donors.
We need your help! Stories like this are made possible because of the support we receive from donors, just like you. If we, the people of faith, do not support our youth in chastity, no one else will.
Please consider making a donation and/or joining us in prayer. You may sponsor a complete outreach to a school for $250. Our team will send you a report of your outreach once it is completed. $50 will print 300 chastity pledge cards, and any amount will help us bring the life-saving message of chastity. Thank you for joining us. Together we are spreading Christ’s message of purity and faithful love to youth all over the world, so they can live out His wonderful plan for their lives.

St. Martins Girls School

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Abstinence is a 'big deal'

Abstinence is a great choice for so many reasons. Here is a list of the most importance reasons to practice abstinence, and why sexual abstinence is a 'big deal'.

Students at Nyamanoro Secondary School February 2016  Mwanza- Tanazania Hold up their Abstinence Card

1. Sexual abstinence is the only 100% guarantee that you won’t become a mommy or a daddy until you’re ready. (No stretch marks, no crying babies, no poopy diapers – until you’re ready!)
2. Sexual abstinence is the only 100% guarantee that you won’t get an STD. (While latex condoms can help prevent some STDs, they are not nearly 100% effective. Condoms don’t prevent against HPV, gonorrhoea, or genital herpes among many other STDs)
3. Having sex with an individual has psychological repercussions. If there is a breakup, increased chances of depression and unstable mental health are higher.
4. Practising sexual abstinence is a great way to get to know your boundaries and develop a stronger relationship emotionally and spiritually with the person you are dating.
5. You won’t need to hide anything from your parents or your friends, which takes a lot of pressure off your back and helps strengthen your relationship with them.
6. You will know that the person you are with, is with you for YOU. Your personality, your interests, and all of the great things about you besides sexuality.
7. Statistics show that teens who practise sexual abstinence are less likely to have depression, less likely to attempt suicide, less likely to live in poverty as adults.
8. Statistics show that teens who practise sexual abstinence are likely to do better in school. (Twice as likely to graduate from college than teens who do not practise abstinence).

There are so many other personal, social and economical reasons why abstinence is a great idea. But ultimately, it all comes down to personal choice. What do you choose? Take some time to think about this.
We believe that your life counts, and you are a person worth waiting for. Your physical, emotional and mental health is irreplaceable and we want to encourage you to make the decision that you feel is best. There is no sex safer than no sex, and you deserve to have the best.
Remember that you are important. Your life counts, and you can make a difference in this world. If you ever need to talk about this or anything else, feel free to get in touch with us. We’re here for you.

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